Jan 24, 2023Liked by David Swindle 🟦, Sally Shideler
I think more traumatized people need to deal with it this way(talking about it). PTSD has only started being diagnosed recently. It's so surprise that there are a lot of people who think that their trauma is normal because their parents were traumatized. It runs in families and if you want to be the shift in your family from accepting trauma and abuse to being empowered to openly communicate their feelings.
And totally about the posts that I said were triggering, it is just like I literally cannot be depressed and sad all the time. And I am hopeful that in time you will be able too.
The thing I am trying to say is once you have gotten to the root of your trauma and what caused it and you know what your triggers are you really need to actively try to avoid them. If not for yourself;
but for the people around us. We really can't always expect people to accept us when we are in such a bad state and HAVE to be aware how our actions affect them. If you don't find out what your triggers are, very specifically, and do the best you can to avoid them you will never find any happiness in life.
4 years ago I had meltdowns and would cut my thighs open, and I found out the specific trigger was when my boundaries are being crossed because when I was a child my stepmom told me my dad loved her more than me. Which was obviously my dad crossing a major boundary for a 5 year old who should be getting unconditional love to confirm that he loves his new girlfriend more than you. So I carried that into adulthood, and kept getting in bad relationships and letting people cross my boundaries because I was groomed to accept my boundaries being crossed. So I settled for a lot of abusive men and I was
You have developed so much wisdom about this, Michelle. And I really appreciate being able to learn from you on it. I very much encourage you to keep talking about it and writing about it.
Yeah when you are dealing with another traumatized person you are essentially just "bumping wounds" and not making any progress. If someone is so in denial about their trauma you can't expect them to accept yours. While you are freely sharing your opinions and feelings they are at least still feeling trapped in the life they have created where they cannot express themselves. I hope that in time the more mental health is accepted the more people will start humanizing themselves. I think talking about it is better, because one of the biggest triggers for me in life has always been when I couldn't use my voice. So I am glad that you are being open about this and you should keep doing it!
I think that thinking that you will feel better quickly just perpetuates the cycle. And the expectation that PTSD would ever go away quickly is totally unrealistic. It's better to accept the cycle and that it is probably staying for a while and learning best ways to cope with it. It sounds cliche but while we are having flashbacks or something is triggering us we can forget to breathe briefly with just further causes our brain to be forced in fight or flight mode because of a lack of oxygen. It has been majorly helpful for me!
I think more traumatized people need to deal with it this way(talking about it). PTSD has only started being diagnosed recently. It's so surprise that there are a lot of people who think that their trauma is normal because their parents were traumatized. It runs in families and if you want to be the shift in your family from accepting trauma and abuse to being empowered to openly communicate their feelings.
And totally about the posts that I said were triggering, it is just like I literally cannot be depressed and sad all the time. And I am hopeful that in time you will be able too.
The thing I am trying to say is once you have gotten to the root of your trauma and what caused it and you know what your triggers are you really need to actively try to avoid them. If not for yourself;
but for the people around us. We really can't always expect people to accept us when we are in such a bad state and HAVE to be aware how our actions affect them. If you don't find out what your triggers are, very specifically, and do the best you can to avoid them you will never find any happiness in life.
4 years ago I had meltdowns and would cut my thighs open, and I found out the specific trigger was when my boundaries are being crossed because when I was a child my stepmom told me my dad loved her more than me. Which was obviously my dad crossing a major boundary for a 5 year old who should be getting unconditional love to confirm that he loves his new girlfriend more than you. So I carried that into adulthood, and kept getting in bad relationships and letting people cross my boundaries because I was groomed to accept my boundaries being crossed. So I settled for a lot of abusive men and I was
You have developed so much wisdom about this, Michelle. And I really appreciate being able to learn from you on it. I very much encourage you to keep talking about it and writing about it.
Yeah when you are dealing with another traumatized person you are essentially just "bumping wounds" and not making any progress. If someone is so in denial about their trauma you can't expect them to accept yours. While you are freely sharing your opinions and feelings they are at least still feeling trapped in the life they have created where they cannot express themselves. I hope that in time the more mental health is accepted the more people will start humanizing themselves. I think talking about it is better, because one of the biggest triggers for me in life has always been when I couldn't use my voice. So I am glad that you are being open about this and you should keep doing it!
I think that thinking that you will feel better quickly just perpetuates the cycle. And the expectation that PTSD would ever go away quickly is totally unrealistic. It's better to accept the cycle and that it is probably staying for a while and learning best ways to cope with it. It sounds cliche but while we are having flashbacks or something is triggering us we can forget to breathe briefly with just further causes our brain to be forced in fight or flight mode because of a lack of oxygen. It has been majorly helpful for me!